Your existence in the world is your personal story that makes cameos in other peoples personal stories. The clothes you wear, the way you listen, the effort you make and the emotions on your face are all a part of your story and it impacts other stories.Think of it as a movie you star in. Do you want to star as the hero or the bad guy?
When things get hard, are you going to rebound or implode? When someone is in need, do you show-up or look away? Do you have a moral compass that guides you or a demon you keep on a leash?
There isn’t a right answer, but balancing awareness of self with a presence being, and how that impacts others is at least worth contemplation. The part you choose to play from there is entirely up to you.